Letting go of someone is always a challenge after experiencing a breakup. There is no easy solution to forget about how someone hurt you and forget all the memories you had created together. But it is something that is important to do in order to give a new person the opportunity to connect with you.
There is always a countermove, always an escape or a way through, so there is no reason to get worked up. No one said it would be easy and, of course, the stakes are high, but the path is there for those ready to take it.
A few months ago, my selection from BespokePost was titled Sanctuary. The main highlight of the box was a Turkish bath towel, that I thought would go well with the other Turkish bath towel I already had. Also included was a three-piece bathroom set made of concrete, which was something I lacked. The final item was something I was undecided about, but has quickly turned into a favourite of mine: palo santo incense sticks.
People travel for different reasons. Some travel for recreation, others to see new sights and meet new people, still others to get away from their jobs and homes, to loosen the festers that bind them to their everyday lives. The problem with modern travel is that we often take our everyday lives with us, in every way that is possible to do so. What kind of clothes will I need? What items can’t I do without? What will I read or watch? How will I stay in touch with family and friends? Should I take my iPod, iPad, iPhone, Nook, Kindle, laptop?
There are days when I’m alone at home and feel a pull to get out of the home- not in order to find something to do, but to find silence. That may seem strange considering I was at home already and could choose to be quiet if I wanted. There is a difference in the silence I was seeking.
“Tsundoku” (n.) is the condition of acquiring reading materials but letting them pile up in one’s home without reading them. “Tsundoku” originated as Japanese slang (積ん読) “tsun-doku” Wikipedia
Tsundoku could easily be a word to describe my life if it weren’t for daughter.
You shouldn’t give circumstances the power to rouse anger, for they don’t care at all.
Marcus Aurelius, Meditations, 7.38.
The past year has been spent focusing on mindfulness and exploring it as thoroughly as I can, which should be rather clear to anyone that has read this site regularly. Before mindfulness, though, came stoicism. The two are very similar, even though their beginnings were separated by a continent. Mindfulness and Buddhism in the east, Stoicism in the west. Both have approaches that have been helpful for me over the years. In simple terms, I would explain mindfulness as being about how we receive life; stoicism as being how we act upon life.
Partially inspired by Ryan Holiday’s Reading Recommendation Newsletter, I thought I would compile a list of books I have read this past year on my path of mindfulness. Ryan tends to read a lot of books- his emails list at least five books and some are not quick reads. Seeing the books he was reading encouraged me to read more this year, which is part of the reason I was absent from writing on this site. Little by little, I’ve been reading more at a volume I was more accustomed to in University.
For the monks, this way of life expressed simplicity. It wasn’t an expression of poverty mentality. With this monastic approach, you don’t worry about survival. You live day-to-day. You think just of today; you don’t think of tomorrow. Tomorrow comes, it doesn’t come- either way, you don’t worry. You continue to live in a very simple way. It is an everyday life of simplicity.
Discipline means getting into what is happening. That is just saying that you have to involve yourself in the situations you encounter in life. We have to go through the process of being part of a situation; otherwise we will not be exposed to this richness. In order to see the delight in a situation, we have to become involved in it. We have to really feel it; we have to touch the whole texture of the complete situation. Then we will be able to relate properly with the actual work involved.